Ok... so I've written on my blog why this book has pissed me off... NOW after a conversation on Twitter and reading a blog by The Romance Man... I'm going to share my concern. (RM I hope ya don't mind!)
Ok... I'd seen The Romance Man's Blog about him and his wife trying some BDSM because they were curious... I don't remember if it started because of 50 or not, but still... A LOT of people have become curious since these books came out. Which I'm ALL for!!! What concerns me... is people trying to just jump right into BDSM because of these books. Thinking it's ok to just sign a contract with a Dom because well... that's how it was done in the book... or people trying to jump into a scene and NOT understand... you have to build up to a scene... and trying it once... well I don't like or I'm not into because there was no build up or talking before hand on what would like to be tried... PLUS... not everyone likes or wants pain... they don't want to be spanked or give them, BUT... BUT there is something that Curious BDSM people who want to look into these things... or couples who want to try it... should look into Sensual BDSM... IF... IF... they enjoy that... then they could work up to more if both parties are interested. I keep thinking of this conversation and I just keep thinking... if The Romance Man and his Wife had a not so great experience, but are still curious... how many others out there are thinking these same things? How many others out there are thinking... oh... I'll go to a Club and just jump into a situation with a Dom without realizing that they are WAY in over their head? They may have a great time and experience, but how many won't because they know NOTHING? Just like the author of the book... who just did online research? So... I'm thinking... I'm gonna start posting ideas on here... maybe... I haven't decided completely on that... but I am offering my brain... IF you have questions... need ideas... I'm more then willing to help. It's been a while since I've been in the scene... the last year I've been getting back into it, but I used to Mentor... and I'm still very willing to do that...
